Friends. Whats The Best Way To Forget About A Work Colleague When You Finish Work?

Friends : Whats The Best Way To Forget About A Work Colleague When You Finish Work

I have fallen for a lady I work with. As she is happily married I am aware nothing will come of this, yet I find it difficult to stop thinking about her. I know the best solution to this situation is to put distance between us, but we work on the same team, in a small building/company, so I have to see her everyday. Has anyone been in a similar situation who can provide some advice? I have become very depressed in the past few months and this situation is at the heart of it. Thanks. ~~~ Jeff M ~~~

Best Answer To Friends Question

Hi Jeff I can understand how the circumstances you find yourself in are affecting you but bear in mind the following:- Friendships and relationships are based on honesty, truth, trust and respect amongst others in equal by each party to those relationships. Amongst these criteria respect for other relationships are just as important. If you can accept what I have said, then view the other side of the coin and ask yourself how you would feel if you had suspicions that another man had feelings for your wife. It is important therefore that you suppress these feelings in the realisation that should they be expressed of the damage that could be caused to all parties concerned by channeling them in another direction. You do not say if you are in a committed relationship. If you are then concentrate on developing that. If not then seek a person who you feel meets your expectations in terms of your perception of the qualities you consider this lady has to offer. Also bear in mind that all that glitters is not gold, all that sparkles is not diamonds. Also remember that in life we play many roles and assume alter egos. We behave differently in a work situation to the behaviour we display when we are with friends or in a home situation. If you are not in a commited relationship then it is important when you meet with a view to establishing a long term relationship to evaluate that person to ascertain whether or not your expectations and needs are met. If I can be of any further assistance please feel free to email me.

All Answer To Friends Questions

Answer 1

Someone else

Answer 2

Time is the cure

Answer 3

nail her and get it out your system

Answer 4

If you love someone, you would want the best for them. If the lady you are having a crush on is happily married, then you wouldnt want to be making a move on her because its just not right, not only it might be ruining your friendship with her, but it might also ruin her relationship with her husband. Her husband may accuse her of cheating/having an affair when she clearly isnt and may possibley divorce her. Im preety sure that you wouldnt want that to happen, right? She is married, shes not going to be flirting with you so soon your crush on her will go away. Meanwhile do remember the fact that she isnt the only girl out there and there will be better girls coming along. So maybe instead of always hanging by her, you can some where else and be sur rounded by a group other people. Meeting new people is always a good idea. Ur not the only one going through the situation.

Answer 5

Hi Jeff I can understand how the circumstances you find yourself in are affecting you but bear in mind the following:- Friendships and relationships are based on honesty, truth, trust and respect amongst others in equal by each party to those relationships. Amongst these criteria respect for other relationships are just as important. If you can accept what I have said, then view the other side of the coin and ask yourself how you would feel if you had suspicions that another man had feelings for your wife. It is important therefore that you suppress these feelings in the realisation that should they be expressed of the damage that could be caused to all parties concerned by channeling them in another direction. You do not say if you are in a committed relationship. If you are then concentrate on developing that. If not then seek a person who you feel meets your expectations in terms of your perception of the qualities you consider this lady has to offer. Also bear in mind that all that glitters is not gold, all that sparkles is not diamonds. Also remember that in life we play many roles and assume alter egos. We behave differently in a work situation to the behaviour we display when we are with friends or in a home situation. If you are not in a commited relationship then it is important when you meet with a view to establishing a long term relationship to evaluate that person to ascertain whether or not your expectations and needs are met. If I can be of any further assistance please feel free to email me.