Marriage & Divorce. How Can I Get My Man To Be Aggressive And Dominate Me In The Bedroom?

Marriage Divorce : How Can I Get My Man To Be Aggressive And Dominate Me In The Bedroom

For some reason i feel the need to be aggressively dominated! Ive been with the same man for 10 years now and its not getting anywhere.. He is very feminine and soft and old fashion, still gives me them sad puppy virgin eyes when we are engaging sex. totally puts me off the mood. Actually to be honest its sending my sex drive down the toilet!! Any tips on how or stories i can get him to read on how to become very aggressive and dominate? ~~~ frustrated ~~~

Best Answer To Marriage Divorce Question

You need to talk about role play in bed . Tell him you want to be taken by force and that you do not want him to ask permission ,also come to an agreement on a safety word. If either one uses the word during rough sex all action stops. Then if you use the word activity resumes. Write a scenario where he comes in and takes you by force and does so and so and so that you know youll like the action going on. Then you can have him write a scenario of something that he wants you to do . If you do this right and pre-approve each role, you two should have fun for a year until all positions are exhausted.

All Answer To Marriage Divorce Questions

Answer 1

Better to get something on the side. Then you wont have to work for it, it will just be that way naturally.

Answer 2

Have you talked to him about this? If not then maybe he thinks you like it soft, etc.

Answer 3

tell him that is what you want

Answer 4

Maybe you should try some foreplay? like "ooh ive been a bad girl, i need a spanking" or something like that... just improvise, use your imagination

Answer 5

Watch some domination porn with him and tell him what you like.

Answer 6

search the stories on for things that turn you on. share them with your hubby. but the best thing you can do is talk to him and tell him what you want. if youve been married 10 years and cant communicate with him then why are you married to him?

Answer 7

Rent some porn DVDs and tell him the parts you like.

Answer 8

Talk to him about it and tell him what you want. He will respond.

Answer 9

You have to initiate him, and let him know thats what you want. Hinting isnt going to work because Sex is something very special. If you dont let him know what you want hell never get the hint. A good tip, when you get the chance just throw him down, take off everything he has and go all out and just use him as your sex toy.

Answer 10

tell him about it, tell him to be more domineering, show him some dominance porn to give him some ideas of what youre wanting.

Answer 11

You have to tell him. Tell him you want him to playact as a porn star in bed. And that you want him to do everything your "direct" him to do. And speak incredibly dirty to him.

Answer 12

Buy a toy or such that you would like. Something like one of those leather paddles. Get naked, hand the paddle to him and tell him to use it. He may just spank the cr*p out of you. My guess is you will have to tell him "HARDER"

Answer 13

Get him to play Tarzan and Jane but explain that he is Tarzan. If he doesnt get the message give me a bell.

Answer 14

Masterbate someplace where hell see you (like in the living room before he gets there) and dont stop when he sees you. Look out, itll drive him nuts.

Answer 15

Why dont you write a story with the 2 of you starring in it and send it to him? If you arent comfortable with that then start off sending little notes (I cant wait to get you nekkid tonight!!!) and gradually get more explicit if he seems receptive.

Answer 16

get on bottom or bend over a table or something and say "**** me as hard you can" if that doesnt work, just say "when we have sex can you treat me less respectful? we could experience something new" dont be mean about it tho because it may turn HIM off. PLEASE answer my most recent!?

Answer 17

wile you are having sex tell him to spank you hard and see what happens from there

Answer 18

you can be sure if he started off aggressive and dominate I dont think that you would have liked it too much either. It is hard for a guy to understand what women want at different times you will need to tell him that it is okay to be a little aggressive and dominate. He probably does not want you to feel disrespected. if just takes you in the room without words and pulls down his pants and pushes you to your knees and tell you to give him a bj now.......he is probably worried that you might feel used or disrespected. talk to him about it. he sound like he is really into you and you should appreciate that....let him know.

Answer 19

I am that type of guy, like your husband. I felt like I was degrading my wife when being rough with her. You really need to tell him when you like it rough (and that it doesnt offend you), if he is very catering to you, he probably will respond better. Maybe have a code word, like talking really dirty, then he will kick in. Women are tricky because if he was "always" rough you would hate that too. Lots of women expect guys to read their minds, and honestly that is impossible for 99% of guys. Sometimes I think the "mind reading game" is just an excuse to have more drama in a relationship to make it interesting in a sadomasochistic way... I think alot of guys are scared to be rough because women are really hung up on being offended very easily, and if he is rough, you might call him at best a male chauvinist or at worst a rapist.

Answer 20

You need to talk about role play in bed . Tell him you want to be taken by force and that you do not want him to ask permission ,also come to an agreement on a safety word. If either one uses the word during rough sex all action stops. Then if you use the word activity resumes. Write a scenario where he comes in and takes you by force and does so and so and so that you know youll like the action going on. Then you can have him write a scenario of something that he wants you to do . If you do this right and pre-approve each role, you two should have fun for a year until all positions are exhausted.

Answer 21

Communication is the key to any good relationship. Talk to your husband. Who knows, he might think that you enjoy it the way it is while you suffer from it. Mind reading should be avoided in a relationship. Your man may surprise you after you talk to him. Look honest, sincere and blunt and you may discover a changed man.

Answer 22

TELL HIM EXPLAIN to him what you want him to do if he has hangups and issues with it....well suggest counseling....or make him wear an eye mask if that doesnt work - ask him if you can demonstrate on HIM what you want done to you.....maybe that could turn him on.... also, start reading savage love by dan savage, advice column - google it -

Answer 23

You have to tell him what you want, what turns you on. Be direct with him. Be nice about it and understanding. He needs to know it is okay with you, and that you will let him know gently if he goes overboard. What turns him on? Maybe you need to engage in some play with another woman, and you be the dominant one to show him what you want, how you want it. Also talking dirty to him while fingering yourself in front of him or while using a toy will help bring him out of his shell.

Answer 24

tell him

Answer 25

what derrick said is entirely true