Marriage & Divorce. What Is Your Opinion And Experiences With Domestic Discipline?

Marriage Divorce : What Is Your Opinion And Experiences With Domestic Discipline

A couple who attend our church group have been using domestic discipline in their home for 2 years. They believe it has strengthened their bond as man and wife and there is more harmony in their home and family than before. As a christian wife, I believe firmly in deference to my husband as the man of our house, and know him to be a very respectful and loving man. I would be interested in hearing from others on this topic. ~~~ Old Fashioned Mother ~~~

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My husband and I practice Domestic Discipline in our home as well. I am actually the one that brought the idea to him. Heres my background. I came from an ultra feminist home...raised by a single, ball busting woman who hated men. I in turn was brought up to be superior to men and think that I could do anything without them. Then, I had children. I was a single mother....and created the same path for my daughters that my mother had set out for me. I am overly opinionated, crazy angry sometimes, and I DO NOT trust anyone. Or atleast, that was the case years ago. I got married to my best friend of like 12 years...my husband adopted my twins. (Their biological father died) and I was introduced to Christ...the right way. I have been learning about submission..Godly femininity and such....I have found that although the bible does NOT say that its okay...it doesnt say that it ISNT okay either. It works in our marriage. We are young, 25. Even ball busting women who have a chip on their shoulder need be brought back down to reality from time to time. I relish my spankings because I know that they are helping me. I know thats sounds crazy and brainwashed...but they dont even really HURT, physically. Dont get me wrong, they suck...but its the feeling in my heart that does the trick for us. I feel truly guilty about my sins in the face of God and I DO learn from my mistakes better and learn how to quiet my mouth more often with DD. I for one love it..and need it, as does my husband. We dont practive CDD *Christian Domestic Discipline) We practice LDD (Loving Domestic Discipline) We, like many others can not see that our lifestyle is a Christian thing...just a thing that works for us. DD IS NOT abuse. Not one friggin bit! Its only Domestic Discipline if both parties in the marriage agree to it. If I EVER told him to stop, he would. In a heart beat. This isnt about CONTROL..its about being the kind of wife and husband that your GOD and your HEART command of you. In my case, its being submissive and always learning and listening. Those are things I never used to do. I have to tell you though, our marriage has flourished...my heart has opened and I feel cleaner and safer than I ever have before.

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Answer 1

I have no opinion and no experience. As for my wife and I, our bond is strong, and there is harmony in our home and family; we have been married for 22 years.

Answer 2

I dont even know what it is.

Answer 3

DOMESTIC DISCIPLINE??? UUUMMM Im GUESSING that its PROBABLY the wife who GETS DISCIPLINED RIGHT??? Well ofcourse it is. Because she needs to be taught a lesson here. And the lesson is to OBEY HER HUSBAND???? NNNOOO I dont agree with this at all!!!!!!!!!!!!! I think it takes two to have a good relationship. its called RESPECTING EACH OTHER!!!!!!! Not just having the guy have his way all the time. If you want to be a STEPFFORD wife, then be my guest??? I and plenty of other woman out there in the world TODAY dont want to live THAT kind of life style. I think the men have had their WAY for YEARS now!!!!! We dont live in a world where theres casltles around anymore and the guy is the KING???? Those days are gone!! things are changing and have changed. if you want to be a puppet then go ahead. It doesnt seem to be what TODAYS woman FEEL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Your just another religious freak????? What a SORRY life you must be kliving. And Im sure your in denial about it.

Answer 4

What do you mean, domestic discipline? Are you referring to the man and woman switching roles in the home? Is this on sexual terms? If the man likes to be dominated by his wife at home, than that can in its on right, strengthen a relationship. This is in part due to the fact that both the man and woman must communicate very well for this to happen successfully. For the man, this can be very exciting, and adventurous, and for the women, I hear that it is fun and uplifting knowing that their man trusts them enough to allow them to wear the pants in the house for a while. This may also be a technique that the couple uses, to insure that everyones voice in the relationship is equally valid, and that a marriage is built on two people, not just the man. Seeing that you do not mention public discipline, I assume the roles are reversed only in the home. What an open couple they must be! I hope they take caution when kids come into the picture though.

Answer 5

If by "domestic discipline" you mean domestic violence (which is sometimes understood as a normal issue among some stupid people), or the man "proving" hes the man in the house, then you have some problem. And that couple too. Christianity does not allow violence in any case! A bond like this can be strengthen and last only if the partners are equal and respect each other on same basis. Maybe in 1860 it was normal in a way to have the man as the "head of the house" or whatever... But whatever your views are, its not 1860 anymore. Its the new millennium and women rule this world today equally as men. So to be oppressed by your own husband, thats something unacceptable.

Answer 6

I think that what works for one couple doesnt necessarily work for others. If you want to try it and your husband agrees to it, thats really your business. I would caution that once youve allowed him to discipline you that the dynamics of your relationship may change, and he may never be able to view you as an autonomous adult again. I would also caution you about how you handled this with the children. All punishments in our household are done privately to preserve the dignity of those involved, including non-physical punishment. If you choose to bring domestic discipline into your family dynamic I would suggest that you consider keeping it private as well. Watching one parent discipline the other can cause a lot of conflicting emotions in children, even if it is not physical discipline. Personally, I do defer to the head of our household. It is his desire that we both have input into household decisions, as a manager he is tired of solving problems all day long only to come home and have to make more decisions, and he wants me to stand by his side in leading our family. We have assumed leadership roles in the areas that we are better equipped to handle. We seek each others opinion and council. Parenting decisions are made together and enforced with a system of checks and rewards that we determined together. Were I to accept disciplinary action, it would be as though I were being removed from my role as wife and parent. I am not a child, I do not act as a child, I do not think as a child, I shall not be treated as a child.

Answer 7

My husband and I practice Domestic Discipline in our home as well. I am actually the one that brought the idea to him. Heres my background. I came from an ultra feminist home...raised by a single, ball busting woman who hated men. I in turn was brought up to be superior to men and think that I could do anything without them. Then, I had children. I was a single mother....and created the same path for my daughters that my mother had set out for me. I am overly opinionated, crazy angry sometimes, and I DO NOT trust anyone. Or atleast, that was the case years ago. I got married to my best friend of like 12 years...my husband adopted my twins. (Their biological father died) and I was introduced to Christ...the right way. I have been learning about submission..Godly femininity and such....I have found that although the bible does NOT say that its okay...it doesnt say that it ISNT okay either. It works in our marriage. We are young, 25. Even ball busting women who have a chip on their shoulder need be brought back down to reality from time to time. I relish my spankings because I know that they are helping me. I know thats sounds crazy and brainwashed...but they dont even really HURT, physically. Dont get me wrong, they suck...but its the feeling in my heart that does the trick for us. I feel truly guilty about my sins in the face of God and I DO learn from my mistakes better and learn how to quiet my mouth more often with DD. I for one love it..and need it, as does my husband. We dont practive CDD *Christian Domestic Discipline) We practice LDD (Loving Domestic Discipline) We, like many others can not see that our lifestyle is a Christian thing...just a thing that works for us. DD IS NOT abuse. Not one friggin bit! Its only Domestic Discipline if both parties in the marriage agree to it. If I EVER told him to stop, he would. In a heart beat. This isnt about CONTROL..its about being the kind of wife and husband that your GOD and your HEART command of you. In my case, its being submissive and always learning and listening. Those are things I never used to do. I have to tell you though, our marriage has flourished...my heart has opened and I feel cleaner and safer than I ever have before.